Love hurts… That’s the only time I’ll be using a cliche here. Love has become more complicated today. Why? Have we forgotten that loving someone means loving their flaws and virtues equally? Whoops, did it again. No more cliches. By loving someone you’re taking a chance that they might end up hurting you… Ugh…These cliches need to stop.
The truth is that when I’m writing about love, cliches are going to pop up. No matter how hard I try to avoid using them. The same way you will feel strongly again for someone if not already, no matter how damaged you are after your previous experience in a relationship. In case you’re happily in love, Kudos! People like you are an inspiration.
But again if you claim to be in a happy marriage/relationship how do you know that it’s all true? Why do I ask? Perhaps an example will explain my question better. Through a friend I met the devil in all her glory! She’s married with a kid, a loving husband and in-laws. What’s the catch? Her husband has no idea of the number of guys she’s screwing behind his back. According to her backstory she was a dove until she got married. Post marriage she claims to be “exploring” her wild side. So is it fair of me to imply she’s a terrible person?Absolutely not. Does her husband or in-laws have the slightest idea? Absolutely not.
I also know a couple who have been happily married for nearly 30 years. Even if a complete stranger spends a little time with this couple, he/she would side more towards my claim. You can inexplicably feel those strange content vibes in the company of such people and vibes don’t lie. What’s their secret? I don’t wanna know. Yes there may be things in the details of a happy marriage that would rear its ugly head and shatter the beliefs of a naive mind. All I know is that they have had their share of ups and downs and they made it.
Isn’t this nice? Hope and despair dancing in our mental spaces. There can’t be one without the other. So what is the point I am trying to make in such amateurish writing? Well as a survivor of 3 failed relationships, 2 episodes of unrequited love, (and definitely not in the position to give a pravachan on lasting relationships) I would say stick to the cliches. Whatever cliches you relate to, stick to them. Ignore those idiots who call you cheesy/lame/emotional nut etc. I’m sure they have unresolved issues in kilos.
Blessed with conveniences of today’s age, the number of ways that we can fuck up our relationships have increased exponentially. We’re one episode/song/movie/text away from thinking that our love lives should be in a particular way. Bollywood has ruined many relationships by promoting stalking and ‘ladki ka na matlab haa’. Whereas on the opposite side television shows from the west discourage people to get attached to another human being. Both of these side use cliches to reinforce their points, why not use their cliches as a measure to normalise our thoughts or reactions to a particular event?
Accept that loving any animal (including humans) is an incredibly tedious and selfless task. A romance wala relationship will go through hardships and in such times use those pathetic cliches. When you’re at that particular life changing moment where you could fuck it all up, dilute that peg of over-reaction with some nice cubes of cliches. It may save you from a hell of a hangover. Side effects? You may call yourself cheesy later.